I planned to do 29 faces in May - I didn't plan on also being unwell. So I have some missing days, but the month isn't over so I might still get to fill the gaps. So here is a mish-mash of sketches and pages in my book of Days.

There are one or two that haven't made it into the camera yet, hopefully I will get to them tomorrow, count what I have done and work to catch up to where I should be ... today is day 24 or 29, so still time to do it!

THAT TIME magazine cover

Unless you have been hiding under a rock these past few days, you are probably aware of the debate caused by this issue of TIME magazine and the cover photo.

The image has managed to push buttons on just about every "side" of the great parenting divide. Firstly - and less obviously - the headline manages to fuel the Mummy Wars (Good Enough? springs to mind more quickly than Man Enough, the actual pun we presume it was based on). Then there is the confronting image of a 3yo breastfeeding (many commentators suggest the child is much older! I think we can take his mother's word on his age - he is almost 4!) and finally, there is the staged aspect of the photo, which is designed to shock, but doesn't depict the real closeness between mother and child when breastfeeding.

And then there is the actual topic of the article - the growth of attachment parenting over the past 20 years since Dr William Sears published The Baby Book.

Dr Sears had, in fact, been a well-respected author before 1992 and his books Nightime Parenting and The Fussy baby shaped my own parenting choices in the 1980s. By the time my third child was born in 1991, I was fully-embracing attachment parenting - my son breastfed until he weaned 3 months before his third birthday. He bed-shared until he was three and was sling-worn almost constantly in his first half-year of life and less often in his second six months as he was a happier baby once he become mobile himself.

I have written before how I not only have no regret about these practices, but have seen my three children become wonderful adults,with none of the "predicted" negative outcomes of these practices eventuating.

My "spoiled" babies in 2011

My Google Reader this week has over-flowed with media and blog response to the magazine, its cover and its article. As you would expect, opinion has been divided. There has been cricitism of the mother in the photo Jamie Lynne Grumet, for exposing her son to ridicule in the future. There has been debate about how old is too old to breastfeed - the definitive answer from Katherine Dettwyler's research  says the minimum predicted age for a natural age of weaning in humans is 2.5 years, with a maximum of 7.0 years.

The three practices which combined, are labelled as attachment parenting - full-term breastfeeding, bed-sharing and baby-wearing - are not new. Dr Sears didn't invent them. They didn't suddenly appear in the 1990s, they have been practiced for millennia. Around the world, they are considered normal, unremarkable and essential.

  

It is insulting to suggest these cultures only continue those practices because of poverty, lack of resources or poor education - they do so because they work and they see no reason to change them. It should not be overlooked that the alternatives - formula feeding, cots, prams etc - require the purchase of equipment ... and that perhaps marketing has more to do with the change of practices in the western world than any wisdom.

It really is TIME the western world - and, dare I say, especially America - got over their desire to distance themselves from our mammalian state and the ancient practices of human parenting. The majority of "modern" methods of child-rearing have only been around for decades and could still be considered to be in the experimental stage, with outcomes we perhaps see all around us but are blind to connect with the movement to separate mothers and children from each other and the rest of society. Our young may not be at risk of attack by predators as our ancestors were, but perhaps there are greater risks than death to children who are trained to ignore their natural sleep patterns, appetite control, need for nurturing and innate dependence in infancy. We know that many modern diseases are more prevalent in those who were formula-fed as infants. What isn't acknowledged is the connection between mental health problems and the unnatural practices of strict routines, separation from mother, premature weaning etc. We are seeing concern about practices such as controlled-crying (often masked as "controlled comforting") by organisations such as the Australian Association for Infant Mental Health Inc (AAIMHI) in its 2002 position paper (revised in 2004) on controlled crying. 'AAIMHI is concerned that the widely practised technique of controlled crying is not consistent with what infants need for their optimal emotional and psychological health, and may have unintended negative consequences.' You can read the background to these concerns in a PDF document that can be downloaded from the AAIMHI's website

The magazine cover has achieved one great thing - it has the mainstream media talking about things that mostly don't get that sort of exposure. From what I can see, most Australian media outlets have covered the story and it has been great to see Australian Breastfeeding Association asked for opinion, alongside people like Pinky McKay who support attachment parenting and respectful infant care.



I guess the proof is in the pudding - as the first wave of children raised under the umbrella of "attachment parenting" become adults, we can look to them to see the actual affects, rather than those projected by the doomsayers.

Faces # 5,6 & 7

I was awy on the weekend and am still in catch up mode, but did take my art kit with me and drew a face Saturday night. I just didn't get any time on Sunday, so I am one behind, but am taking that as one of the two *spare* days in the month ;)

Although I began this project drawing stylised faces in my Book of Days, I became entranced when I tried sketching with my graphite mechanical pencil into my visual journal and am enjoying playing and seeing what happens. This is a technique i haven't done since high school, but I love the way the graphite and paper work together :)

Face # 5

Face # 6

Face # 7 

I am not thinking too hard about technical correctness, that will come later ;)

Face # 4

Face # 4 ... proportions aren't right but I liked shading and highlighting with the graphite and eraser, so practice makes perfect!!!

And face # 3's BOD page finished

Face # 3

Face # 3 - page is work in progress, but face is done!

(I just can't bring myself to cover up those wonderful breast shaped cakes on the other page!)

This one passed muster - well, the Facebook photo tagging software asked me if I wanted to tag the face as someone!

Face # 2

Face #1

May 1st.
Took about two hours, including waiting for drying ... intervals filled with knitting ... all while watching Life Book vids :)