Tuesday, January 24, 2012

"Fall out" from the Frankston baby sling incident

Today the baby sling story I shared yesterday has hit the media and the inevitable for and against comments are appearing in the comments posted by readers. It is interesting how many people are supporting the opinion that slings-are-bad-prams-are-good.

We used prams and slings equally with our three children and I am by no means anti-pram. However they, like baby slings, need to be purchased and used within safety guidelines.

Do you recall this dreadful incident a couple of years ago? (Please note the child survived physically unscathed)

The Frankston baby was as safe as can be, worn by a parent who knows and practices the safety guidelines. Whether this can also be said for a lot of the pram-wielding population is less clear. You only have to spend some time in a shopping centre to see strollers toppling from unbalanced shopping bags; babies over-heating beneath excess bedding and toddlers straddled or propped atop babies in prams with no toddler seat. And no police checking for their safety. Google calls that "pram fail"






Sunday, January 22, 2012

Caution! Orlando Bloom had better stay out of Frankston!

I am proud to live in Frankston but there are times when I hang my head in shame to have any association with it.

Today is one of those days.

You see, apparently you can now get questioned by police for the act of - male baby-wearing. Like this:
My favourite elf, Lord of the Rings star Orlando Bloom, wearing baby Flynn
A friend's partner was today stopped by police for the crime of carrying his daughter in a baby sling. In Frankston:

Beach street, Frankston. 2 police cars stopped, 3 police got out and interrogated this Dad for wearing this 12 month old baby in this Olives and Applesauce soft structured baby carrier while she slept (with the hood on). They had received a call from someone saying a man was suffocating his baby while walking down the street.
After 1 officer stuck her head into the sling to see the baby, noted that they baby was fine and said so, they lectured this man about parenting, informing him that it was too hot to wear the baby (under 30 degrees with a cool breeze in a suburb by the sea), that it was unsafe to have her on his back, apparently having her on the front would "give her more room to breathe". They told him that his baby was at risk of dying of SIDS and requested he remove the sling and carry the baby home, which he refused to do because it would wake the child. 1 officer reached their hand into the sling and removed a small toy the child was holding in her sleep and stated "now there will be better airflow so she won't get so hot". 1 police officer loosened the hood which was supporting the sleeping baby's head.

After all this 1 cop asked why the was getting frustrated. The Dad was told to use a pram from now on.
We are very disappointed at this harassment from three individuals who clearly have no information about babywearing.
To say I am astonished is to put it mildly - baby-wearing is currently seeing a resurgence in popularity around the world and if those same officers had been at the Frankston Waterfront Festival last weekend, they could have seen dozens of parents - fathers as well as mothers - using slings instead of prams. For goodness sake, I was carrying my babies like this back in the 1980s in Frankston!!!

This Dad is no bogan, he has a degree with honours in criminology! His wife is well-known in parenting circles for her promotion and use of baby slings and teaches at workshops on using them! Their first child, now 4 was also worn in a variety of slings from birth and these parents are well-aware of safe baby-wearing practices.

So how is this ancient way of carrying infants now suddenly a criminal offence? And who trained police officers to know what is safe and unsafe when it comes to baby-sling use?

 

You know, I was so pleased with how our local police responded when we were broken into last year. Now I am sad they will be justly ridiculed around the world for their ignorance. The media will love this. Awareness demonstrations are being planned for next week:

Join us out the front of the Cinemas in Wells st for a public babywearing info session where passers-by can learn about safe babywearing and try out a wide range of slings for themselves and meet babywearing parents.
And now Miranda Kerr and her husband Orlando Bloom can't come to Frankston, because they might be arrested for their shared-parenting practices :(

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Today I am Thankful - techies, vegies and power

- for the hard-working souls who provide all of our social media AT NO COST TO US! I am loving the new Pinterest app on Facebook and I am sure the new Good Reads one will work properly soon, so there is no need for people to get so rude in the comments on their blog or FB wall - be nice, people!

- for fresh food: I popped out to the produce store and the vegies were so fresh, I don't think they yet realised they are harvested! We are blessed with our access to good food.

- for power: the electricity went off unexpectedly for about an hour. The Men of the House were bereft as the cycling vanished from the TV screen and the game from the computer. I just picked up my book ;)

Friday, January 20, 2012

Today I am Thankful - purple, lunch & art

- for purple: the myotherapist exclaims: your bra matches your toe-nails!

- for lentils & rice: such a yummy lunch at Aum Shanti. Note to self - make time to eat here more often.

- for art: I posted my artworks for the first and third weeks of Life Book to my Facebook Wall and peole said nice things. For all that I am so public with so much of my life, I am nervous about my ventures into drawing and painting. So positive feedback helps. (Week Two is a Dream Board, cutting and pasting planned for tonight/tomorrow)


Week One - Iris, Goddess of Rainbows. We needed to aknowledge our Goddess Super Powers, harder than it seems, to get round the self-talk that "bragging" is not the done thing.

Week Three - Goddesses illustrating two sides of me. I chose to show my public and private personas - one my work days, I am the person that mothers visit to find help with their breastfeeding problems. This is represented by the Roman Goddess Rumina, Goddess of breastfeeding and women. But on the days I am not at work, I am focused on seeking help for my own health issues, represented by Panacea, the Greek Goddess of Healing. But she is reaching out to and connecting with Rumina, because that work also helps me heal and grow, so they are not truly separate.

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Needles and Pins

I have this song stuck in my head -


This post is in one form a confessional, a group heads-up. You see, for this past week I have been experiencing what is most likely a flare-up of my MS. I have numbness and "pins and needles" in my hands and feet. It is trying to decide where to settle, LOL, sometimes making both my little fingers disappear and others, it decides my feet are freezing cold. I also experienced - for the first time - two bouts of Raynauds phenomenon last Saturday, most likely associated with the whole episode.

I have made an appointment to see my GP, who will give me a new referral to my neurologist, who will send me for another MRI, which may or may not show new lesions, for which they may or may not want to treat me with steroids. Sigh.

So, if you see me and I am constantly rubbing various extremities, it is just my brain forgetting the blood isn't really cut off from them, it just feels like it - and if you see more typos, it will be the result of trying to type with numb fingertips!

Worry not, it is just a new path in the journey that is my life with MS.


Monday, January 16, 2012

Today I am Thankful - weekend, village tales & resting

- for the most wonderful weekend at the Frankston Waterfront Festival. This annual event in our beach-side town just grows and grows! And for the first time in years, we were blessed by the weather gods. Although it was quite chilly on Saturday, Sunday was gloriously beautiful. In-between my shifts in our feed and change tent, run for mums by our local ABA group, I was able to hang out with my daughter Kaitlyn on Saturday then my daughter Melissa on Sunday. We must have walked more than our 10 000 steps as we explored the event, but I probably ate back the same kilojoules in yummy food!

- for village tales. After a long delay waiting for book ten in the series to come from overseas (possibly via the Moon!), I am back on track with the Turnham Malpas series by Rebecca Shaw and am just about to begin book 11!

- for resting. Just a little tired after the weekend, so a bed day was in order. Caught up on my Google Reader, checked out all the goodies in the Life Book course I have signed up for with Willowing and basically doing very little!!


Friday, January 13, 2012

Just what is normal, anyway?

Feeling really sad about news that hit the blogosphere this week - Breastfed babies cry more and smile less not so much because of the content, the study or the outcome, but because of the glaring presumption the response is based on.

Can you guess?

No? Probably because we are all so inured to it that we no longer notice.

Cry MORE and smile LESS - than what?

Than bottle-fed babies, which are deemed the norm, that's who.

It happens all the time, in every media article and many promotional publications. The baseline that breastfeeding is measured against is the "normal" outcomes of bottle-feeding.

Breastfed babies have lower rates of ...

Breastfed babies are less likely to ...

Breastfeeding mothers have higher protection from ...

It seems we have become so complacent about the prevalance of artificial feeding that we have forgotten it is not the natural method of infant nutrition. We have come to consider breastfeeding as optional, superior, better ... best! When it isn't, it is just normal. The default method. The way every other mammal feeds its young.

Now, if this headline said "Bottle-fed babies cry less and smile more" it would be more accurate. Just as headlines stating "Formula fed infants have higher risk of (insert whichever "benefit" of breastfeeding you wish)" would be more accurate. But they don't, because everyone has forgotten the default.

And that is much to blame for the attitudes towards breastfeeding in the world.

And the world doesn't even realise it.

The impact of this means that we no longer know what normal infant behaviour is. That we are not told how modified cows milk formula is still cows milk and that was designed by Mother Nature to feed baby cows.

If I asked you to name some differences between cows and humans, I bet you wouldn't think of  how their babies are raised. This is partly because you don't see a lot of naturally-raised calves today.

Ssh - nobody knows I am here
A cow (or other herd-animal) eats grass, which is very low in energy, so she needs to eat pretty constantly. This grazing means she needs to walk around quite a lot. A newborn cow , however, feeds only on his mother's milk, so it makes more sense for him to conserve energy, rather than expend it unnecessarily wandering around after his mother. But a cow can hardly carry her baby as she grazes. Yet if you leave a sleeping calf lying in the long grass alone, you risk him waking and calling for his mother - and that would attract predators. Which is a dnager to the calf and the rest of the herd. So, the mother's milk is specially designed to sedate the calf, allowing him to sleep long periods between feeds, until he is older and can keep up with the herd more easily.

In arms reach
A human (or other primate) eats fruits,vegetables, leaves, grasses and berries.( And meat, in some species, including our own. Primates are nomadic animals, moving as they eat during the day and setting up a nest to sleep where they are at night. Primates also have hairy chests and their young have a strong gripping reflex to hold onto their mother, so she can easily graze AND care for her baby. And when the baby isn't clinging-on, the mothers has arms to carry him. A heavily-sedated infant would not be able to cling on and react to the mother's changing position as she moves and they need to rouse quickly when they need to feed. This can be as frequent as every hour in some species! The baby is then soothed back to sleep by his mothers moving body. Grazing is not something the mothers needs to stop doing to feed her infant.

Cows milk is by no means the most similar to human milk and is not actually a logical choice to replace it. But cows, goats and sheep ARE animals that were easily domesticated and so their milk was at hand when formula was first invented.

Newborn chimpanzee
So,  it makes sense that when you feed a human infant the milk designed for a baby cow, the baby will behave more like a calf than a human: he sleeps long and deep, going longer between feeds and being quickly sedated by them. And in our modern world, these have become desired traits in our young, as we no longer graze with our babies clinging to our chests and we have many more activities in daily life than other primates.

But that does not make that behaviour normal. Or healthy. But it is easy to sell.

Sleeping like a baby ... but what type of baby?